Good Bye My Lover.... Good Bye My Friend

Its not laziness... its not for lack of something to blog about... its not distraction. My new laptop is going to take all the blame for my not blogging as much as I want to. As beautiful as it is with very authentic keyboard and lovely feel, I just cant seem to connect with it... the idea of switching it on and using it for more than 30mins  is something I don't look forward to. I guess we haven't bonded yet.

So what is this thing I am about to talk about? I'll tell you.... my ex boyfriend, one of my ex boyfriend told me this morning that he proposed to his girlfriend and that she said 'YES'.... for some reasons that has gotten me upset since morning. His email...which was a reply to my email, because we keep steadily in touch... came in today by 9:15am...and since then I haven't stopped cooking. I made a one week full pot of Vegetable soup with beef, kpomo, stock fish and croaker fish....after that I made a two weeks pot of chicken stew, after that I made Jollof Rice...and the house help had to beg me to stop when I told her to go to the market to get me ingredients to fry chin-chin. 

Cooking is not my favourite thing... but its what I do when I'm upset. Either that or cleaning. How can my Angel  be planning on marrying next year. We broke up in 2006... but we have been friends since then, he's one of my best friends, my confidante...my ace. We talk about everything and gossip everyone, and when he started dating this chick in UK early this year, I thought it was just to get over his last relationship....so where did all this proposal/marriage thing come from now? 

I'm happy for him, not because he will soon be getting married, hell no, seriously that is one man I don't want marrying anyone...that is anyone except me (or at least till I'm married)...No I'm happy for him because he sounds extremely happy, happier than he has been for a while. And he deserves to be happy because he lives his life making others happy. But I cant shake the feeling that I am losing my friend to a stranger... there's this pain at the bottom of my stomach that sends me to the bathroom every time I think of it. I cant tell anyone this because they would think its ridiculous and laugh me to death... its been five years come on. Thus I'm blogging about it.

Something I reluctantly learned from this, this morning was that I can fully move on now... I realised that I've never ever completely given anyone else 100% of my love and heart and always left an escape door open in every relationship I have been in the last 5 years...because there has always been a tiny weeny part of me which hoped...and wished that despite everything in our past that made us part ways, we may one day get back together. Well there goes my that. 

I need to stop here... re-reading what I'm writing makes me want to go to the bathroom again.

Oh yeah, I got a Honda CRV car on saturday of last week... I'm yet to pimp it. 

I'm still searching for a job while still going for physio. I should maybe think seriously of starting my own business...but what?

If you dont know Joxy  then you are missing alot. She's a great blogger and has been a great friend to me... besides she likes cooking, so much that I've never met anyone except my mum who enjoys the act of cooking like she does. 

I love you all

Nutty J

Proposals

I just wanna ask, what is the right way for it to be done in Nigeria. Some one tells me, that your husband to be shouldn't propose to you (with ring) before the introduction ceremony, where his people are formerly introduced to yours. And after he has been accepted by your family, can he then give you an engagement ring. But if this is so...then you already know its coming...so there can be nothing as thrilling as seeing him kneel down in rain water and bring out a ring from his inner pocket and asking you 'will you marry me'....or nothing as romantic as been proposed to in a romantic environment without you expecting it to happen that day. I mean If you have already done the introduction..then he can as well say one day 'eh en...see the ring I bought today....try it on so we know if it fits'

I used to think he should propose first...and after you accept his proposal can you invite his family for the introduction ceremony...but again, what if you are already wearing the engagement ring and your family, especially your father rejects your suitor. What would be done then....do you return his ring? or you wait and hope your old man changes his mind?

Another person said...he shoudd propose but the babe shouldn't accept the ring till daddy approves.

These are things I need to know...what is the acceptable way its done in our naija culture. Guys which of the two ways will you or did you do... lemme know sharply. Put it down to curiosity.

Nevertheless there is one text message I got...that leaves me wanting to laugh hard and pray seriously at the same time

''Nutty J* well my problm is to see u. and I have see u. my coming to you is a boys and gril. will you marry me. I have been hear about you for long time througt Isreal*, well if the resgust is greste, give me a flash. I love you.' Samuel*

I don really suffer sha. The curious thing is this is a person who has mobile police escorting him around. I dont know which gods I offended to warrant this. Azzin what is bringing rubbish to the barracks?