So I decided to go see an orthopedic surgeon concerning what I talked about here. That decision was made due to one simple reason...I tried dancing 'waka waka' with my cousin and found it difficult to rotate my hips the way I used to... so on friday I found my self with the chief (he made sure I was aware of this)orthopedic surgeon in one of the top specialist hospitals in Lagos. I got the referral to go there from my medical insurance company.
After asking me a series of questions, he asked to see the X-ray I'd done and the following convo ensued:
Mr. Doc: ah...you already know what I'm going to say
Me: huh?
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Mr. Doc: You have 'insert big name here' of the femur and it doesnt look too bad compared with a case I had two weeks ago....
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Me: Excuse me sir... are you sure? I mean I gave my doctor this same x-ray last week and he didnt see anything
Mr. Doc: Of course he wont see anything is he a bone doctor?
Me: erh...nope. OMG what I'm I gonna do?
Mr. Doc: I always give my patients two options and you have to decide which is best for you
Me: Okay?
Mr. Doc: One, you can decide to take 4-6weeks off from work, come on admission so we can fit you into traction to enable you get off your feet and allow the bones come back to its right shape... and after this whenever you feel that pain in the future you can always do same....
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Mr. Doc: Or..and I think this is the best option for you...I give you elbow crutches to use and get weight off your legs for the next 6 weeks and when the bones are well rounded again you go off them...and whenever you feel the pain you cant always use the crutches in the future.
Me: Isnt this a bit extreme? As in what has a slight pain got to do with all these many things?
Mr. Doc: Extreme is the case I had two weeks ago and he is in for hip replacement as we speak... I dont want that for you considering the fact that you are so young
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Mr. Doc: One more thing you need to lose weight as your legs no longer seem to be supporting your weight
Me: Excuse me sir, I weigh 57kg (thats like 122 pounds or so) and I'm a size 8... for my age I think I'm doing okay...as in where I wan reduce go?
Mr. Doc: just lose some of that and make sure you dont add extra...etc etc yada yada yada... do you have any questions regarding all I've said?
Me: Yes sir, considering the fact that I couldn't dance the way I usually do yesterday...does this mean I'm going to find it difficult riding my future husband? As in being on top during sex?
Okay I asked that question in my mind...becos this was the first question that came to mind.... but I FOUND myself asking:
Me: Is there no other option?
Mr. Doc: I'm sorry dear... but there are no other options
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Me: Thank you very much sir...I have to process this and talk with my family and I'll get back to you on what I decided. Thank you for your time
And I ran out of there...this was another time I wished I could at least cry. The first thing that entered my mind was to call a friend in America and a quick scroll through my phone showed I didnt have his number. R* and I had been chatting online for quite sometime now and we talked about alot of things and I just took it for granted that he'll always be a click away. Now I just needed him to talk with and I couldnt and I thought what if something happened to the cyberworld and FB, yahoo msger and gmail and blogger vanished.... it means I'd have lost a friend just like that. The things we take for granted sha...
The ride back home that friday evening (9th July 2010)left me thinking about things I've taken for granted till now... and in their own little way, these happen to be my favorite things. Dancing, being on top during sex, high heels, climbing trees, sitting crossed legs the muslim stlye....these are some of my favourite things. I simply remember them....
And then I don't feel so bad
N'J
*I'll give you the updates later, I've been away from blogsville and I see I've missed alot. Lemme go do my blog round, will holla*
Aunty mi, get a second opinion. It's like these doctors take pleasure in instilling fear and worst case scenarios. You will be fine jare, that's how they told me to insert metal to support my back.Its been 6 years and I am still doing evrything I used to with pain only every now and then. Don't fret! lol
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Exactly, i think he was talking trash,and he is very unprofessional for scaring you that way. Get a second opinion, i sincerely wish you could go to Ghana or SA, but yea with that said get a 2nd and a 3rd opinion.
ReplyDeleteYou will be ok
Hello my Nutty Professor,
ReplyDeleteLook, straight talk, I just did a post(yesterday, and please excuse the titled) Titled: "Forget The BS, They're Blowing Smoke Up Your A$$".
http://careycarey-carrymehome.blogspot.com/2010/07/forget-that-bullsht-theyre-blowing.html
Yes, a second opinion is warranted, AND THERE'S MUCH MORE. Check out that post and it's preceding one. Doctors, to a large degree, are nothing more than people like you and I that have to have a job to make ends meet. Their job (and money) revolves around patients and billing. And, they LOVE LOVE LOVE putting us in THEIR pockets.
Sorry, I had to come back to subscribe to the comments, carry on :-)
ReplyDeleteI pray you heal quickly oooo. What decision do you think u'll make? Get well soon :) All the best xoxo.
ReplyDeleteehya 'doo' I meant, sorry..
ReplyDeleteTry to get this thing over and done with please.. No joke with am..
How are you doing? Take care my dear..
@ All: Thank you...I really appreciate ur kind words
ReplyDeleteSECOND OPINION! SORRY TO SAY THIS BUT NAIJA DOCTORS ARE BUSINESSMEN FIRST! MEANING THEY WILL PUSH THE MOST EXPENSIVE OPTION TO YOU FIRST...UNLIKE DOCS FROM OTHER PARTS THAT WILL PUSH THE LEAST INVASIVE OPTION FIRST (MAYBE TO SHOW SAY DEM TOO KNOW BOOK, I NO NO)
ReplyDeleteDEM TELL ME SAY MY MAMA GATS ENTER FULL ANAESTHIC, DEM GO CUT IM BELLE OPEN, REMOVE HIN WOMB, SECOND OPINION TELL US SAY NA KEYHOLE CUT DEM GO USE, AND CUT ONLY THE PLACE WHERE THE GROWTH DEY. SHE WAS RESUMING HER COOKING ACTIVITIES AND NAGGING LESS THAT A DAY AFTER SURGERY!!!AS OPPOSED TO LYING DOWN MAKE THE ALL THE VARIOUS CUTS AND STITICHES HEAL INCLUDING THE MENTAL TURMOIL OF LOOSING WOMB, OVARIES ETC AS FIRST DOC SAY..
BOTTOMLINE, GET A SECOND AND THIRD OPINION IF NECESSARY..PUBLISH AM HERE, DOCS IN THE HOUSE (BLOGSVILLE) FIT PUT MOUTH. IT AINT OVER TILL IT IS OVER.
Lol, I am not shouting oh
(hugs)
lol.. @ riding
ReplyDeletewishing you strength babe