Be yourself?

“Be yourself!!”

‘’Do not pay attention to what society thinks’’

Okay if u are in the category of people who hear that and go:

‘yeah!! that’s right, be yourself’


You can now repeat after me: B-U-L-L-S-H-I-T…yeah I said so, Total BS.

I belong to the category that think, yes…do as you please, don’t think of society, be your own person…but now I’m beginning to see that society,whether you ignore it or not, finds its way to our bosoms and thinks plenty of us. And I’m going to talk about it from the relationship point of view (as usual)

Have you noticed that there is an unwritten game I like to term ‘the relationship game’….that is widely accepted in a relationship? That is if you want it to work…lemme give u a typical example:

Treat a man well, pay him attention and show him how much he means to you…in no time he will be bored and be screaming ‘’next please ‘, but if you hold back your feelings and treat him like shit, he’ll want to prove himself hence will keep showing you love. So in essence hold back…keep him chasing.

This game existed when I was in school…I played the game (not intentionally) not because I wanted to keep anyone interested, but I was hardly ever ‘in love’ (except once) in any of the relationships I got into…hence it was easy to treat him/them like ‘shit’ and true true….till today those men are still hot for me…

Now why I’m I talking about this…? I’ll tell u…after giving the relationship thing some 2 point something yrs space, I come back and see nothing has changed. I get a lot of:

‘’Nutty, we know u are a honest person..so be yourself and try not to show too much of how u feel…guys get bored easily that way’’ (huh?)

‘’keep him guessing girl…don’t say this unless he has done that, don’t do this unless he has said that’’

''Down play how you feel, that way he'll remain interested''

Etc

How is this being ‘myself’???? This is fraud…lying about how I feel, or down playing it or not showing it as far as I’m concerned is FRAUD. And I’ve never felt comfortable with fraud. What they say is true…at least it was true some yrs back…but how d heck does doing all this qualify as being ‘yourself’

The game works…whether its dictated by society is not relevant, what is relevant is that it works…but when will it end?

Why can’t two people who are in love, express love…if their idea of expressing love is painting their name in the sky and talking to each other on phone every two minutes…why can’t they? Why wont it work like this? Men una de vex me oh… this is BS…what do u mean by getting bored because we show u love? pshceeew!!


‘’Be yourself’’, ‘don’t care what society says’ etc may be all well and good….but what about when society is right? Do u still go ahead and ‘be yourself’ and risk losing the relationship or do you listen to ‘society’ and play the game….then live with the knowledge that you are a fraud?

Long thing.


N'J