Thursday, November 29, 2012
Oral Sex = End of Relationship
'Jay I'm serious... I cannot bring myself to give or receive oral sex from anyone, its evil and I will not be a part of it'
It started as a joke, or rather I saw it as a joke... we had gone to service my car and three of us were in the car on our way back home when the conversation started thus:
'I wan open my own church now...' he said. I laughed out loud and made a dismissive sound like he was kidding and he goes:
'I saw a friend of mine yesterday, female... smoking in a public place. She told me she pastors a church'
'so?' I replied 'is that why you want to open yours?'
'Yes na.. how can a pastor be smoking? that means all of us can have a church then'
'What is wrong in smoking? show me for bible where dem talk say na sin' I replied half jokingly
'Jay what are you saying... if its not a sin why do people hide and do it'
'Well I don't know about other people, but you know me long enough to know that when I had some habits i never hid them'
'Why you no do am for your papa front' He asked. To this I gave a very loud laugh...by this time the conversation had got me laughing so loud that I was almost in tears. I replied him and said:
''Oh come on... its just the same way I cannot give my husband oral sex in the presence of my father, and because I cant do that in his presence, does it ,mean my doing it behind closed doors is a sin too'?
That was how it started...the topic of how Oral sex is a sin... this coming from a man that I would have staked my life for in a bet that on this particular topic, he would be one to propose the motion that there is nothing wrong with oral sex. Instead I couldn't believe all the things that came from his mouth about oral sex. Mehnnn I fear my head.
'Are you saying that when you marry now, your wife is not allowed to have oral sex with you? based on what? are you for real' I was dead serious at this point.
'I am telling you... I wont even allow my girlfriend give me a blow job, in fact any girl who asks me for Oral sex, I would ex immediately, such a girl has been around the block for too long, I no fit marry that kine person... the evil spirit that follows homosexuality and lesbianism is the same evil spirit that follows oral sex. God forbid bad thing. Jay let me ask you one question... do you think Faith Oyedepo gives her husband a blow job? so why do you new generation ladies want to indulge in the sin of sodom and gomorrah?' ....Jay I'm serious... I cannot bring myself to give or receive oral sex from anyone, its evil and I will not be a part of it'
'I don't think there is anything wrong with oral sex, its part of foreplay...besides you both are legally married and your body is hers' and hers' is yours, so long as no one gets hurt in the process, I dont see it as wrong' ...my boyfriend who had been laughing at the conversation all this while responded with that.
I didn't wait for the other guy to talk.. I quickly told him 'we have heard ooo'...cos me I don't want my boyfriend to start over analysing if truly oral sex is sin or not, I no dey for surprise inside marriage. Evil communication corrupts good manners/reasoning.
It did get me thinking though (you see why evil communication aint good)... what if my friend is right. Is it possible that giving or receiving oral sex is a sin after all and am I just not being open to the possibility that it might be...because I just don't want it to be a sin? Who wants to have intercourse all the time when there is another way, an enjoyable way for that matter to make him or her cum?
Do you think oral sex is a perversion that could lead to hell?