Thursday, November 29, 2012

Oral Sex = End of Relationship

'Jay I'm serious... I cannot bring myself to give or receive oral sex from anyone, its evil and I will not be a part of it'
It started as a joke, or rather I saw it as a joke... we had gone to service my car and three of us were in the car on our way back home when the conversation started thus:

'I wan open my own church now...' he said. I laughed out loud and made a dismissive sound like he was kidding and he goes:

'I saw a friend of mine yesterday, female... smoking in a public place. She told me she pastors a church'

'so?' I replied 'is that why you want to open yours?'

'Yes na.. how can a pastor be smoking? that means all of us can have a church then'

'What is wrong in smoking? show me for bible where dem talk say na sin' I replied half jokingly

'Jay what are you saying... if its not a sin why do people hide and do it'

'Well I don't know about other people, but you know me long enough to know that when I had some habits i never hid them'

'Why you no do am for your papa front' He asked. To this I gave a very loud this time the conversation had got me laughing so loud that I was almost in tears. I replied him and said:

''Oh come on... its just the same way I cannot give my husband oral sex in the presence of my father, and because I cant do that in his presence, does it ,mean my doing it behind closed doors is a sin too'?

That was how it started...the topic of how Oral sex is a sin... this coming from a man that I would have staked my life for in a bet that on this particular topic, he would be one to propose the motion that there is nothing wrong with oral sex. Instead I couldn't believe all the things that came from his mouth about oral sex. Mehnnn I fear my head.

'Are you saying that when you marry now, your wife is not allowed to have oral sex with you? based on what? are you for real' I was dead serious at this point.

'I am telling you... I wont even allow my girlfriend give me a blow job, in fact any girl who asks me for Oral sex, I would ex immediately, such a girl has been around the block for too long, I no fit marry that kine person... the evil spirit that follows homosexuality and lesbianism is the same evil spirit that follows oral sex. God forbid bad thing. Jay let me ask you one question... do you think Faith Oyedepo gives her husband a blow job? so why do you new generation ladies want to indulge in the sin of sodom and gomorrah?' ....Jay I'm serious... I cannot bring myself to give or receive oral sex from anyone, its evil and I will not be a part of it'

'I don't think there is anything wrong with oral sex, its part of foreplay...besides you both are legally married and your body is hers' and hers' is yours, so long as no one gets hurt in the process, I dont see it as wrong' boyfriend who had been laughing at the conversation all this while responded with that.

I didn't wait for the other guy to talk.. I quickly told him 'we have heard ooo'...cos me I don't want my boyfriend to start over analysing if truly oral sex is sin or not, I no dey for surprise inside marriage. Evil communication corrupts good manners/reasoning.

It did get me thinking though (you see why evil communication aint good)... what if my friend is right. Is it possible that giving or receiving oral sex is a sin after all and am I just not being open to the possibility that it might be...because I just don't want it to be a sin? Who wants to have intercourse all the time when there is another way, an enjoyable way for that matter to make him or her cum?

Do you think oral sex is a perversion that could lead to hell?

Nutty Jay.


  1. No kind nyash toilet neva see.

    There's nothing you won't hear in Nigeria.

    Where does it say in the Bible that blow jobs are sinful.

    Nigerians make me weak.

    1. I asked the same question...where is it in the bible?

  2. Well, to each his own. If he thinks oral sex is a sin to him, then let him live with it.I heard some people feel the same way about kissing. Oh well.
    Like you said, in marriage, your body and your partner's body become one. You guys get to do what you find pleasurable to and with each other. That is the way it should be!
    Saying that oral sex is evil and its the same evil behind homosexuality is just laughable. But it's my opinion anyway. And he better makes sure he tells that to whoever he's going to marry to avoid problems in the marriage.
    Thanks for all your comments on my blog dear.

  3. Gaskiya I no know o. Mata tire me. I've tried to read up on good xtian books but they are either quiet about it or say no. Just a few say it's not bad as long as both parties consent. I truly don't know.

    Do I give or take? Ermmmmmm........

  4. I really don't know how people come up with this stuff.

  5. So some people say kissing is a sin too? We better make a list of sin and non-sins lets be sure o.

  6. I'm sorry and he knows Faith Oyedepo doesn't blow her husband how? LOL! I laugh in French! He thinks She'll come out on record to say she enjoys 69ing with her husband?!

    I bothers me so much to see that people have no minds of their own.

    If you don't want oral sex because you don't enjoy it - fine. Don't wax lyrical and make sex a 'sodom and gomorrah' thing


  7. Patterning your life based on how you perceive another's is the height of foolishness. You've seen her as a pastor's wife, you assume they only missionary or that they're happy. All this based on what?

    Please tell your friend it's time he developed a mind of his own and stop assuming everything he sees/hears is gospel.

    *i'll stop now. That Oyedepo thing got to me. I don't know where it says that a pastor's prefences is what you must base your life on*

    This is how people spend years on earth unhappy


    okay i'm really done now!

    1. Hahaha...the same thing I asked him, if its Oyedepo's wife that he uses as a yardstick to measure his own way of life.

      Thanks for your comment

  8. “As an apple tree among the trees of the forest, so is my beloved among the young men. I sat under his shadow with great delight, and his fruit was sweet to my taste.” (Song of Solomon 2:3) What fruit are we talking about here?

    I rest my case.

  9. Like hell it is!!! Oh well,since that's his impression,let him stick to it.

  10. Okeoghene, I've seen it's passage n argument too n I agree that's what it means. Thanks for reminding me hare.

    As for people who use other people as yardsticks, OYO! Like those people are not human beings too. Abeg

  11. Once, it was discussed in Sunday School and i think it was agreed that it isnt OK to do so.... I dont shy away from oral sex... i believe its something I will enjoy and explore at its fullest when I am married.

  12. People should read SOS in the bible with the eye of the spirit. Okeoghene has quoted a good part of it.

  13. Loooooool the last time this topic came up during simgles fellowship in church, what we were told is that God created the P for the V, so for the P to go anywhere else other than the V is a sin. Also,that it is an act that doesnt glorify the woman but love making was made to bring you closer to God but oral sex is a dirty act.

    Do i personally think its wrong? :D,hehehe *wink*

  14. I dont see anything wrong with oral sex between married couples. I believe oral sex is an avenue to get maximum satisfaction from sex. When two people get married, they become one, and therefore are free to enjoy their bodies the way they please. Anal sex might be wrong, but oral sex is not.

  15. lol. I mentioned this on my recent post, not knowing the furor it has caused here.
    I am Catholic and the church disapproves of oral sex. In fact any style except missionary position is wrong. Ahem...I love my church but that bit na for them pocket. I shall love my spouse' body in full and he mine.
    Patterning yourself after someone based on appearance is foolishness though. If you are not a fly on their wall, you don't know what goes on in the bedroom period.

  16. just stumbled on this blog, and its make an interesting read, well my two cents on the oral sex during marriage debate, I love receiving and love giving even more, I dont see why it would be sin, its all part of sexual expression and with your husband, cant see what the problem will be, but then maybe I am a bit biased, because I have a thing for giving my hubby a blow jobs its so empowering.

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