Monday, December 2, 2013

An Effective Female Leader


On one hand you are female and biology has blessed you with unnecessary emotions, extreme passions, a kind heart and a tendency to be more subjective than objective (most times)


On the other hand you are a leader, and social science demands you to be objective, steadfast, not one who gets easily excited and a person who can make right decisions regardless of whose ox is gored (yours included). A person in charge of others and situation


How do you blend being a woman and a leader in a corporate organization? You don’t. You are either a woman or a leader. You can’t be both at the same time. That’s if you want to keep your sanity.

You cannot be a friend and an effective leader at the same time, you cannot be a mother to those you are in charge of and be in charge at the same time. You cannot aim to please everybody but still lead rightly at the same time. You cannot be reactive like a woman tends to be, instead you have to be proactive. You have to be flexible even when your will wants you to remain rigid on that subject. You need to be consistent even when your hormones are running here and there... you need to act like a man even as you think like a woman.


Being a successful female leader entails leaving the woman part of you at home, get the job done and go back home to her. You just can’t be effective being both a woman and a Leader at the same time.  I don't think nature meant it so...

Its lonely at the top



Nutty Jay. 

56 comments:

  1. Wow so true
    It's not easy being a woman
    To lead well, you just have to 'lead' in the true sense of the word

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  2. Speaking from my little experience, you need to have the heart of a man to be an effective leader as a woman. No sentiments, no vulnerability, no mushiness. You need to be strong and focused. Just do the right things, follow the right procedures and keep the company's polices. Also know your onions but if you are don't, don't act it. Put up a strong facade and run....go get help! Because it could be used against you. All in all, it's great being a female leader! Nice post dearie. Just for the record, my blog is 2 today! (excited) http://frediliadtruthuncensored.com/

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  3. Well said, and @Fredilia's comment too.

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  4. In my little experience as a female leader in my work department - I think I can be a woman and make a great leader. There is no deficiency in me that makes men better leaders. I am not like a man, true, but my make up if used correctly can be used to make me a great leader, after all, we do lead our homes/families and we do such a great job of it. That takes a lot of proactive action, strength, etc all qualities required of a leader
    We fail as women leaders because we try to be what we are not - men. Let us be women and then be leaders, then we shall succeed.
    This is just my thoughts/opinion.

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    1. I don't think it's us trying to be like men, I think it's we not knowing how to separate our emotions from our decision making when in authority

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  5. I dont think nature meant it so too but from my experience, a leader doesn't have to be a man, it can be a man or a woman. The key is understanding the principles behind leading other people and the situation you are leading.

    I dont think it has anything to do with your hormone, stature, sex, physical attributes etc. Know when and how to communicate your objectives, study different leadership style needed for different situations. What works for one situation wont work in another situation. A leader who is a man, knows situations when to apply soft or hard leadership style not because he is naturally a soft or hard man. Women do better than men in some leadership roles and situations.

    Either a man or a woman, your temperament also will definitely want to influence how you lead but as long as you apply the right leadership style for that situation you will lead well. Most women believe they should "act like a man" to be an effective leader but rather end up acting like a "boss" not a leader. Trust me people know the difference and will resist it.

    Leadership is a process whereby an individual influences a group of individuals to achieve a common goal.

    Its not bossing people around, bossing people will make the people you are leading to resist you. Leading others comes natural if you know the principles behind doing it, and they will be willing to follow. I'm not ruling out the fact that people can be difiicult to be led.

    To me you can be a leader and a woman at same time, and keep your sanity if you understand the principles behind being a leader and the situation you are to lead in.

    Four key things to consider are The leader, The Followers, The situation and communication

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    1. Wow! Anonymous who are you?? You are on point

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  6. I agree with anonymous too. Well said!
    Nutty J, thumbs up for a well written post.

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